January 2013: A conversation, not an interview, something that popped out of the blue and turned out to be a nice time.

James Brossman is someone I like, someone I met in Belgium at the beginning of 2013, when I was heading to Noord Brabant,  after a couple of days I decided to “escape” so I did it, and went to Belgium.

What James does for a living for one may be outrageous, for me quite OK, he told me something interesting about so-called “fucking-business”

He has definitely some distance – between, acting or performing and living his life. But he confessed he’s got some difficulties  to keep his private and professional life together. He admitted it is difficult, especially – love making, making love at home, every day, every night, distracts his performances. And it is the other way round.

I asked him how it is, to perform a rough sex so often, how was it at the beginning of his porn acting, he told me it was difficult, the girls he was about to act with were more brave, and ready than he was. I asked him why – adult movies? His answer was very quick with a broad smile on his face, honest and frank, he simply likes sex.

He is in the business about 13 years now, I asked him, with whom he prefers to have sex with, girls, boys, he told me that even though he is having a male friend – he prefers girls, they are more sensual, more delicate. No to offend his friend, but women are women.

I asked him about drugs, alcohol, HIV, and AIDS.

He likes to drink, he does some drugs, he checks himself of HIV test every 8 months, and he checks partners as well, he must be sure they are not HIV and AIDS positive. If they are he rejects them.

Sex with a condom – always.

I asked him whether or not he had been making love with a virgin – he told me yes, of course he did, there were a couple of girls, but it is always difficult act, for him and for the girls mostly.

I told him the sex we watch in most of the movies significantly differs from the one in adults movies. He says, it has to - mostly because of the teen viewers, the images which may distract young receiver, the notion of sex itself. Moreover, not every woman is brave enough to overcome some psychological barrier (oral or anal sex) therefore they make love in a certain pattern. Besides making love at home and making love as a movie performance are two different things. Distracting one another. He assured me, once I meet someone for me, important, worthy to be my partner or even a husband, I see what he meant.

It is not just "fucking" - making love is difficult, all is in the head ... men and women experience it differently.

There were lots of questions I wanted to ask but I was ashamed of.

I asked him how many times did he visit Paris or Amsterdam? He was surprised of the question, I explained him, Paris is a place where I go pretty often, my mother’s sister  and brother live there for nearly 35 and 24 years, respectively. And Amsterdam is a town I live in. He was in both places a couple of times.

He asked about my being, what I was doing for a leaving, I replied I've been a teacher for 8 years, but quit it for good and now I work as a maid. He smiled and told me it really suits me better. He called me "a still young but serious, ordered lady". OK, I like it. 

It was not an interview but a casual conversation. A random one, it came off out of the blue. I liked it, and even though I do not watch adult movies, I liked James Brossman a lot.